my friends, it is not illegal to recognize there are problematic elements to the content you enjoy. it’s called critical thinking. you can enjoy something and not turn a blind eye to the shit wrong with it.
Not to be a downer but if i had to, at 12 years old, listen to my mother tell me all the different ways men would want to hurt my body, and how i might prevent that, then i really feel like teenage boys can handle a conversation with their parents that starts “let’s talk about consent”
Everyone who comments “but women rape too!!!!!!” on this post and other posts like it please either learn how to have genuine sympathy for rape and abuse victims or go die
To clarify, my mother started that conversation by telling me that she was date raped by a friend, a boy she had trusted, when she was 14 which then started a long series of sexual paranoia which formed a large part of the foundation of the emotional and physical abuse my sister and i suffered from her for my entire adolescence and into young adulthood. She told me about her rape in graphic detail, and convinced me that it would happen to me if i was ever alone with a boy. She told me about her mom’s sexual abuse at the hands of her father. That same year, my best friend admitted to me that her grandfather had been molesting her since before she could remember. My parents gave me pepper spray for my birthday because i walked to and from school alone. All the girls in my 7th grade health class had to have a “self defense day” because our computer teacher was caught fondling a 12 year old. We were taught that if a man tried to hurt us, we had to yell fire because otherwise no one would help. Every woman i know has a story like this. And yet every time we try to talk about it, demons will bend over backwards to point out “women can be rapists/abusers too!!!!” As if we don’t know. As if other women aren’t often their victims. As if cis men didn’t write the laws that allow abusers to escape justice time and time again. As if cis men aren’t overwhelmingly the ones who speak over abuse/rape victims. As if cis men aren’t overwhelmingly the abusers in question. No one is saying “all men rape”. I said “maybe parents should talk about consent with their sons instead of placing all of the emotional trauma of past and possible future sexual violence onto their daughters” and people want to say shit like “teaching boys that they’ll rape someone is a self fulfilling prophecy” and pretend they dont hate women lol. Like can yall die??
And before yall try it, yes this post is for trans women too
